This week's question comes from janet.
Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.
Listen in to learn a quick tip to help you stop hating your ex.
If you want more one on one help from me as your divorce coach to help you create an even better life than when you were married, then you need to schedule your free consult with me by clicking here to schedule.
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Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.
The problem this week comes from Janet. She says, “I hate my ex. I don’t think this something I represent to most people. I’m a good person. I’m very sweet to people but when it comes to my ex he can fire me up so quickly and I’ve gotten to the point where I have a lot of anger and hurt that I’m carrying around. I’m tired of carrying it. How can I let that anger and hurt go and move on in my life?“
The first thing I want you to know is that you’re not alone in feeling this way. So many other women who have gone through divorce can totally relate to feeling like this. I also want you to give yourself a break. The reason you feel hate toward your ex is because of what you’re thinking about him. That’s it. Your brain always has a good reason for thinking a certain way so whatever you’ve been thinking about your ex – it makes sense that you feel anger toward him.
Now, here’s the really good news. If you want to stop feeling the hate toward your ex you can. All of our thoughts create what we’re feeling. So the way to stop feeling the anger toward your ex is to let go of the story that you’re telling yourself about him. When you can do that, you’ll be able to stop feeling the hate and anger. This doesn’t mean that you’re condoning or giving a pass to your ex and how he’s behaved in the past in any way. All it means is that you stop telling yourself the story that you have about him that’s making you feel hate. Because you can either feel peace and give up the story or give up on the prospect of feeling peace and keep the story. It’s totally up to you.
That’s your Friday flip! Stay tuned for the weekly podcast episode that comes out every Monday. And remember if you want more one on one help from me as your divorce coach to help you create an even better life than when you were married, then you need to schedule your free consult with me by going to www.karinnelsoncoaching.com Remember that’s Karin with an ‘I’.
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