Ep 212: Body Ownership: A Somatic Practice

Feeling powerless in your divorce? That's exactly when you need this simple yet profound somatic practice for reclaiming ownership of your body and presence.

During the most challenging times of divorce, we often feel like everything's spiraling beyond our control – legal proceedings, relationship dynamics, and major life transitions can leave us disconnected from our own sense of agency. But what if there was a practice so simple you could do it anywhere to remind yourself of what you DO control?

This episode teaches a powerful bodily ownership exercise that anchors you in the present moment. Through deliberate touch and verbal affirmation, you'll learn to create an immediate shift in your nervous system and reconnect with your physical presence. I guide you through each step – from shaking out tension to orienting yourself in your environment to methodically reclaiming ownership of your entire body.

As we move through the practice together, I share why present-moment awareness is the only genuine pathway to healing. Your healing doesn't happen when you're worrying about future what-ifs or replaying past mistakes – it happens right now, in this moment, when you choose to reconnect with yourself and remember your inherent wholeness.

Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by divorce proceedings, struggling with co-parenting challenges, or simply needing to ground yourself during emotional turbulence, this practice offers an immediate pathway back to yourself. Try it whenever you need that reminder: in this moment, you are safe, and your body is your own.

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Full Episode Transcript:

When you're going through a divorce, sometimes what you need is the most giant hug from somebody who's been through it and knows exactly what you're going through. This podcast, becoming you Again, is that giant hug that you've been looking for. You are listening to episode number 212, and I am your host, karin Nelson. Welcome to Becoming you Again, the podcast where you learn to step into your power as a woman in this world, where you learn to reconnect to your wholeness, your integrity, and bring into alignment your brain, your body and your intuition after divorce. This is the podcast where you learn to trust yourself again and move forward toward a life that you truly want. You are listening to Becoming you Again, and I am your host, karin Nelson. Welcome back to the podcast.

My lovely, lovely ladies, today's going to be a shorter one because I'm teaching you a new somatic practice. Well, it's not necessarily new, but maybe new to you, because this is one that I haven't covered on the podcast yet. And I like this one because it's so simple but so effective in bringing you back to the present moment, into the here and now. But it also really puts you in a place of ownership over your own body and reinforcing that to you and your brain. This is especially helpful, I think, when you are in moments where you feel very out of control, very powerless to all of the things that are happening in your world, in your life, outside of you. This could be things that are happening in your world, in your life, outside of you. This could be things that are happening in your day-to-day life that you're feeling powerless with, which we all know is a big deal when you're going through a divorce, because there's a lot of stuff that we feel like we have no say over, we have no power. But this could also be with things in your community, things in the world, things that are going on in this country, that you feel very powerless to change. So we want to bring it back to the here and now and remind ourselves that we do have power over some things. You are in control of some things, especially right now, in this moment, you are safe and your survival is not threatened in this moment. That's where we want to get to.

So listen, my sweet kittens, I want you to remember that, even if you are in the most terrible divorce, that is, the most antagonistic and full of conflict, I want you to remember that at any moment when you need it, you are allowed to stop what you're doing, take a few breaths and bring things back to the here and now. This is where healing occurs. It doesn't occur in the future, where our brain takes us when we're worried about the uncertainty of everything that's happening, everything that's going on, and it doesn't happen in the past, when we feel judgmental and anxious about ways we showed up or things we could have done differently or should have done differently. That's not where healing occurs. Healing occurs right now, right here, in the present moment. This is where nervous system support and alignment happens. This is where you remember your power, your direction and your connection to yourself. This is something that I teach and remind my clients almost every session, because being in the here and now is so important to your healing process. I talk with my clients about the significance to our nervous system that these somatic practices provide, and if working with me one-on-one is something that you're interested in, you can schedule your 30-minute consult with me by going to my website, wwwkarennelsoncoachingcom it's Karen, with an I K-A-R-I-N-N-E-L-S-O-N. Coachingcom. Or you can just click the link in the description of this podcast episode and you can do that right now if that's something that interests you.

All right. So this somatic practice If you're in a place where you can stand up, please do that. If not, that's okay, you can do it sitting down. Stand up, give your arms a quick shake like shake, shake, shake, shake. I'm going to do it with you. Shake, shake the arms, move the fingers, shake the hands, shake the shoulders, kind of do a little shimmy. Whatever you need to do to just loosen yourself up a little bit, move some energy around. All right, now I want you to orient yourself. That means that you are going to look around the space that you are in. Look around the room that you are in or the car that you are in, or wherever you are. Look around, notice it, notice the walls, the door, the surroundings. Just notice, look with your eyes and notice. Be present with what you see, be present in wherever you are right now.

Now we're going to step into some bodily ownership. With one hand. I want you to touch, grab, feel, massage, whatever feels resonant to you, your other arm and I want you to state out loud, in different tones and using different emphases on different words this is my arm, this is my arm, this is my arm. This is my arm, this is my arm, this is my arm. And continue to do that. And then I want you to switch sides and do the same thing to the other side. This is my arm, this is my arm, this is my arm. And then we're going to move around your whole body. These are my cheeks, this is my face, this is my hair, this is my neck, this is my chest, this is my stomach, these are my thighs, these are my legs. This is my foot, this is my foot, this is my foot.

However it feels when you're touching and feeling and taking ownership of your body, state it, remind yourself of it, allow yourself to step into that bodily ownership. To step into that bodily ownership, allow yourself to be present in the here and now with yourself and breathe, realign and remind yourself. In this moment I am safe. All right, my friends, that is what I have for you today. Use this one as often as you need. I will be back next week.

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