Unlock the secret to emotional resilience with one simple practice. Imagine shedding your stress and emotional baggage with a transformative technique called rhythmic shaking. This is an empowering somatic practice that helps you release tension and stress, especially if you're navigating grief or feeling overwhelmed. This episode will teach you the power of gentle movement and rhythm in fostering emotional independence.
This episode will:
• Introduce rhythmic shaking as a somatic practice for stress relief
• Guide listeners through a rhythmic shaking practice
• Encourages slowing down to find stillness and grounding
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This is Becoming you Again, the podcast to help with your mental and emotional needs as you move through your divorce and into life after divorce. This is episode 200, and I am your host, karin Nelson. Welcome to Becoming you Again, the podcast to help you with your mental and emotional well-being during and after divorce. This is where you learn to overcome the grief and trauma of your divorce. We're going to do that by reconnecting with yourself, creating lasting emotional resilience and living a truly independent life so that your life can be even better than when you were married. I'm your host, karin Nelson. Welcome back to the podcast. My friends, can you believe it? This is episode 200. Whoa, this is a huge accomplishment for me and I am so happy to be able to have brought you 200 episodes of Becoming you Again. This is like the coolest thing and I'm just overjoyed right now, like I'm crazy happy. I am giving myself a high five for staying committed to you and committed to myself. Let's be real, right, and if you would like to give me a metaphorical high five, since we're not right next to each other, I would just ask that if you're finding this podcast helpful, that you text this episode or literally any other episode that you've found useful, text it to your friend who you know could use it. Because if we're going to be totally real, all of the things that I teach and talk about in this podcast okay, let's say like 99% of the things anybody can use for any moment in their life, it doesn't have to be just when they're going through a divorce. Of course, I tailor it to women who are going through a divorce, because I went through a divorce, my clients go through divorces, you're going through a divorce, but all of the information, all of the tools every single one of us could use just pretty much on a daily basis. So text the link that you want to share with one of your friends right now and say, hey, I know you're struggling or I'm thinking of you and this might help because it's been helping me. So that would be your metaphorical high five to me for 200 episodes. Thank you so much for being here and for continuing to listen and come back. I appreciate you all, so, so, very much.
Okay, so today I'm going to teach you a somatic practice called rhythmic shaking, and it's pretty self-explanatory, except, instead of just like shaking out your limbs, like if you picture, like a dog after it gets wet or something, or after it's had a kind of a lot of anxiety happen to it, it will kind of just shake its body, right. It's not happening in that kind of like haphazard way. We're going to be adding kind of rhythm to the shaking to really help with the letting go. And this is super, super useful when you are feeling a lot of grief or like a lot of emotional baggage or when maybe you're feeling just overwhelmed by the sheer magnitude of life and everything that you're dealing with. This can help you feel immediately better. It will help you to discharge your stress and that built up emotional energy.
So when I was first introduced to this concept of rhythmic shaking and I was kind of shown how it is and what it looks like, I kept having this flash of that episode in Squid Game where they have to do the tug of war. It's in season one and I'm just going to apologize right now in advance, if Squid Game is not your thing, because it's definitely a violent, intense show in many ways. Great story. But like, come on, let's be real, it's, it's pretty violent, right. But if you have watched it and you remember that episode in season one where they have to do like the tug of war the team with the old man and the main character. They come up with this strategy to win the tug of war by getting into this rhythmic pull of the rope. And it starts with their legs about hip distance apart, facing forward, their knees slightly bent, and then they are rhythmically pulling on the rope in kind of a shaking forward and back motion. That's kind of what we're going to be doing in the somatic practice, not quite as intense as they did in that show, but kind of with that and obviously without holding onto or pulling on a rope, but it's kind of that same idea. We are shaking our body in kind of a rhythmic way. All right, that was a side tangent, but you know me, I'm all about weird side tangents Anyhow. So back to the somatic practice.
I will take you through it and walk you through it, do it with you and then obviously come back as many times as necessary. You can fast forward through this beginning weird tangent part and just go right to the part where I start, which is going to happen in just a couple seconds or so, and then just do it as many times as necessary whenever you just need this emotional release. So let's get started. Stand up with your legs about hip width apart, with your arms hanging down at your sides and your knees slightly bent, breathe in and out, and your knees slightly bent, breathe in and out, and I just want you to begin to bounce slightly, keeping both feet flat on the floor, and you're really just feeling the power in your thighs. Your legs are moving up and down, but not super forcefully. Just feel that power in your thighs and as you do this, you'll start to begin to notice that, as you bounce into your legs, that your hands have started to relax and feel a little bit lighter. And we're just going to stay in that rhythm just for a few moments. Slight bounce, slight movement, feeling the power in your thighs, feeling the looseness in your hands, in your arms, and now I just want you to accentuate that practice, accentuate it a bit more, using a bit more power from your legs and thighs, a little more bend in your knees, and as you do this, you're going to start to notice that your shoulders feel more relaxed, your spine and your arms are relaxing a bit more too. Your elbows and your wrists are feeling much looser and they're kind of rhythmically joining into that bend and the shake of the legs. That's what we want. We want that rhythm to spread throughout your body, throughout your limbs, helping you to discharge your excess emotional energy.
Let go of the stress, let go of whatever it is that you're feeling and as you do this rhythmic shaking, continue to breathe in, breathe out. Pay attention to your breath as it's coming in and out, and let that feel into the rhythm that your body has going on as well. And if it feels right and resonant with you, you can move even deeper into the rhythmic movement. You can lift off your heels so they're slightly off the floor, keeping that bend in your knees and continuing to shake rhythmically the rest of your body while you allow it to relax and release and discharge more of that emotion. This is going to help your bones and your ligaments continue to release. It's going to help you let go of anything that you've been holding inside of you.
Remember this doesn't have to be too intense. Listen to your body as you do this practice. If it becomes uncomfortable, you can lay off on the intensity. You can slow down the rhythm. You're in charge. Your body can be the guide. If you need to take a break, take a break. If you need to slow down, slow down, all right.
Now I want you to begin to slow down the shaking and the rhythm Slower. Continue to go, slower, slower. Continue to breathe until you're standing still. I want you to find that stillness, find that peace. Your nervous system may feel more aligned. Notice. Breathe in, breathe out. Feel that stillness. One more deep breath in and a slow, deep breath out. Thank yourself for taking a moment to let go of whatever motions you were holding on to. All right, my friends, that is the somatic practice of rhythmic shaking. Thank you again.
So so much for being here for 200 episodes. I hope that you'll continue to come back again and again, as I know I will. In fact, I'll be back next week. Hi, friend, I'm so glad you're here and thanks for listening. I wanted to let you know that if you're wanting more, a way to make deeper, more lasting change, then working one-on-one with me as your coach may be exactly what you need. Together, we'll take everything you're learning in the podcast and implement it in your life, with weekly coaching, real-life practice and practical guidance. To learn more about how to work with me one-on-one, go to karinnelsoncoaching dot com. That's wwwkarinnelsoncoaching dot com. Thanks for listening. If this podcast agreed with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating. Wherever you listen to podcasts and for more details about how I can help you live an even better life than when you were married. Make sure and check out the full show notes by clicking the link in the description.
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